Posts Tagged: FRIENDSHIP

7. Rest

On August 10, 2019 by marloandco With 0 Comments - loved by the Father, Marlo & Co, Uncategorized

At the beginning of this year, the words God gave me for this year was rest and trust.  In January, I had no idea how that would how literally this would play out in my life this year.  And honestly when God gave me these words I did not understand why He gave them to me.

Ten weeks ago when I quit my job, my plan was to take a week off (that was going to packed full of things) and then start a new job the next week.  Key words here is MY PLAN.  Not God’s plan.  I did have a job offer but I turned it down for numerous reasons.  So I ended my last job with no new job.  During the week after I quit my job, God pressed it on my heart to take a significant amount of time off before I start something else and for me to go away by myself.

In the first month of not working, I had no desire to work any job.  And it caught me by surprise that I did not want to work.  Anyone that knows me personally knows working is something that I have always done and I see value in it.  And it would give me anxiety when I do not have an ongoing income to pay bills and live on.  But not having the desire to work showed me that I needed this time to rest.  I needed time for my physical body, emotional being and my spiritual being to be able to rest and heal.

Six weeks after I quit my job, I went on vacation by myself for 12 days! Yes, you read that right, I went by myself to the Finger Lakes region in New York.  During this time I was able to sight see, meet up with a total stranger to trade a photoshoot, I visited a new church twice, chased the sunset one night, try iced custard made out of duck eggs, sit at a local coffee shop and work on my business for a few days, read a couple books, go see a movie alone, reconnect with some family that was in the area, and most importantly I took the time to connect with God and listen to his voice.  Where I was staying there was not internet or TV to distract me from hearing God’s voice.  In these 12 days God spoke to me and I learned what it means to rest and just stop without rushing to the next thing.

I am grateful for this season of rest.  I do not regret that I took time for this season.  It was a season that I needed.  In this season, God has provided for me in more than just finances.  And He has given me clarity and direction as to where He has called me to.  He met me in the moments that I was anxious and unsure that I had done the right thing.  He has spoken to me through the Bible, my time with Him and through other people.  God has walked with me through this season of rest and healing.

Out of this season I have gained and learned some things:

  • I have joy again.
  • I truly have peace now.
  • I am happy again.
  • I have learned more about myself.
  • I have learned more about who God created me to be.
  • I have learned more about how broken I truly was and how other people saw it in me.
  • I have learned that I had even deceived myself about my brokenness and emotional state.
  • I have a deeper relationship with God than I have ever had.
  • I have learned to rest and the importance of it.
  • I have learned to trust and have faith in God in a new way.
  • I have learned more about community and how it is crucial to have.
  • I have a zeal for life again.
  • I am starting to utilize my creativity again.
  • I have learned that my brokenness does not mean that my story is over.

It is important to take time to rest and take time alone for anyone but especially for those in ministry or in a profession that helps others.

“Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” (Luke 5:16)

“Jesus, knowing that they intended to come and make him king by force, withdrew again to a mountain by himself.” (John 6:15)

Jesus did this on a regular basis.  And if Jesus had to do this how much more important is it for us humans.  We need to have a rhythm and focus in our life that allows us to have rest and focus on our relationship with God.  We need to slow down in life and not always be rushing off to the next thing. While you may not be able to take time off of work for a couple months to rest like I have; it is still important to integrate rest in our lives in a regular basis.

 

***This is part of a series of blog posts of me sharing about my burnout and things I have been learning through this.  They are numbered in the order that they are written in and to indicate that they are part of this series.***

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The costs of being jaded

On July 6, 2018 by marloandco With 0 Comments - loved by the Father, Uncategorized

I have been in social services for almost 10 years and in these 10 years I seen and experienced a lot.  I have gotten to meet many people through the years.  Many I was able to help but more importantly there were many that taught me life lessons.  I think of the man who taught me how to be present and actively listen rather than think of the next thing I am going to say or do  I think of the individuals who have worked so hard to get ahead but life keeps hitting them with hard moments.  But they chose to continue working towards their goals and not allow life circumstances to determine their direction of their life.

As I continued to work in social services, I became jaded.  Webster’s dictionary defines jaded as: fatigued by overwork or made dull, apathetic, or cynical by experience or by having or seeing too much of something.  And I almost wore this jaded filter as a badge of honor.  I thought it was okay to view my clients that I worked with through this jaded filter.  In some ways, I thought I was being wise when I looked at my clients with this jaded filter.  I remember telling a coworker that I can tell she is early on in her career because of the hope and optimism that she has in a situation with a client.

I was on the way to work one morning and someone was talking on the radio about people who are jaded.  And how this jaded filter is not something that we should have.  It caught me by surprise but the more I thought about it, I realized this person was right.

I believe that every decision and belief have reactions with they good, bad or both. And having the jaded filter has reactions in our lives and the lives of those around us.  The problem with being jaded especially in social services, you are indirectly telling that person they are going to fail with what ever they are working towards.  And being jaded causes you to be cynical rather hopeful not only in the lives of our clients but also in our own lives.  Being jaded also has you always looking for the worst in a person or you have the belief that the person will never change.

I think often we adapt this jaded filter because it “protects” us from being hurt or vulnerable with others.  Another thing that happens when you have a jaded filter for a long time is that you quit dreaming for yourself and others.  This keeps most of our relationships more at a surface level and we miss the blessing that can comes from being willing to walk beside someone in their journey.

And the last affect that the jaded filter has, we are deciding the future for the person from our point of view.  We are believing what society, life circumstances or labels say about someone rather than what God says about them and who they are.

When in relationships with people, we need to be wise but we also need to be willing to get vulnerable and show them that their journey matters to us and more importantly to God.  And live in a way that others see that the belief that no one is too far gone and that they can be redeemed by God.  And they can live in the blessings that God has for them.  We are called to build relationships with others and God, walk the journey with them and believe in others even when they do not believe in themselves.

So have you become jaded?  If so what is being jaded costing you and those around you?

 

 

 

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Love

On April 11, 2017 by marloandco With 0 Comments - Uncategorized

Why do we feel the need to always give our opinion or give our take on a situation or a person?  (I know its ironic that I am asking this questions on a blog.)  But today I read a Facebook post that someone made a judgement about a different religion.  As far as I know the person that made the judgement did not know the people they made the judgements about.  It got me thinking why do we feel the need to make judgements about others just because of our differences.  Too often we use our differences to make judgements to put a divider between us and the person we make judgements about.

When Jesus was asked about the greatest commandments, this is how he answered this question.  “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?”  And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment.  And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.  On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.” Matthew 22:36-40  Jesus did not say that you don’t need to love the person that believes different than you.  Or you don’t need to love the person that looks different than you.  Or you don’t need to love the person who has hurt you and does not deserve your love.  Or you don’t need to love the person the homeless person that crosses your path.  Or you don’t need to love the person who decides to love differently than you.  There were no exceptions in this commandment.  God made every person on this earth different.  We are called to love others.  Too often we find a reason to not show God’s love to others.  We should take time to get to know someone who we may want to pass a judgement on.  If we did this we would find the person is not as different as we think.  And most likely we would find this person is amazing and they can add a great value to our life.

Another thing to remember is that our words have impact.  Too often we say words without thinking about the impact they have.  Too often the words we say carelessly have an impact for a lifetime.  It is up to us if we want our words to impact positively or negatively.

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